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The Biggest Mistake Parents Make… Comparison.


January 2, 2023

Ok, not only new parents but second, third and fourth-time parents too. Let’s be honest, as parents, we are all learning as we go. We all make mistakes. MANY of them and most likely daily. From nipple sizes to forgetting to pack diapers in the diaper bag and all of the in-between. Sometimes I call my children the wrong names, including our dogs’ names. But the biggest mistake that parents make is comparison.

Instagram v. Reality

Let me start off by admitting that I am very guilty of this. When my daughter was born, I was constantly comparing her milestones to those of my friends’ little ones, or even worse other babies on Instagram. I would compare milestones, outfits, and even how put together other moms appeared to be. You name it and the thought probably ran through my mind. I know that I am not alone.

Easier said than done.

As a mom, you are constantly wondering when your little one would hit their next milestone or if you are doing something the correct way. To be honest, there isn’t one correct way to do things as a parent. As I tell parents that I work with, each little one is different. This goes with sleep but also just about everything else. Comparison is a thief of moments and memories. You will spend more time focused on comparing than soaking in the moments with your little one.

The mama mental load – What does this even mean?

I refer to the mama mental load frequently. This is everything we are carrying that cannot be seen but oh mama, we can feel it! It is the expectations that not only we but society sets for us. It steals time, especially moments. Takes the mom guilt from a 2 to an 11. And makes us just feel so darn defeated. My Sleep Support Program not only focuses on your little ones sleep but also the unloading of the mama mental load so that you can be your best self! 

“You are a f*cking awesome mom”.

I am a huge fan of Leslie Anne Bruce and her book “You are a f*cking awesome mom”. If you know, you know…but if you don’t then you need to put this book in your Amazon cart right now. I’ll wait…

In Chapter 13, Leslie states the following “We just all need to take a deep breath and remind ourselves that there are a hundred different ways to raise amazing kids, and just because someone is doing it differently from how we do it doesn’t mean that they’re doing it wrong. Most importantly, don’t let someone else have that power over you. Are they in your home? Did they carry your baby and bring him or her into the world? No, you did. You’re a motherfucking badass mom. You need to trust your mama instincts…”.

And I am 100% here for that!

Oh, and mama, you are doing awesome! Dada, you do too!

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